Parenting and the Power of the “Redo”

Parenting and the Power of the RedoParenting can be hard enough. Wouldn’t it be great if we could just reach out to each other and our kids and have a redo whenever we want? Well, why not?

During this past week of Easter, I’ve been thinking a lot about new beginnings and what they really mean. Starting over. Forgiveness. Isn’t it a relief when we can truly start over without bad feelings and lingering resentment?

Forgiveness and letting go of deep resentments and hurts are big emotional hurdles. But what about smaller stumbling blocks? What about simpler issues?

With two strong-willed kiddos who inevitably want different things–or the same thing like the same toy, tensions inevitably can rise. Words are said. Behaviors occur. Feelings are hurt. Frustration mounts.

The Beauty of the “Redo”

What can I do as a mom to help diffuse the situation? What can I say in those moments when the thing that happened isn’t as important as the feelings? When there isn’t some big lesson we need to learn at that moment?

I’ll tell you what I sometimes do. I turn to my oldest, put out my arms and say, “Let’s have a redo!”

He knows when I say this that we can start over. Turn back the clock. No bad feelings. Not only immediate and total forgiveness, but also forgetting. And I can see in his eyes he believes in it–in starting over; that we can leave behind bad feelings and try again.

Over these days following Easter, I’ve been thinking a lot about the redo. After all, isn’t that what it’s all about?

There are lots of ways to diffuse situations, teach lessons, connect, etc. The redo teaches us that we can start over. We can be forgiven, no strings attached. We can try again. We all make mistakes, and it’s okay. The key is how to move forward together, with feelings and trust intact.

Wouldn’t it be great if everyone gave us a redo. In the meantime, we all have been given the most important one. Happy Easter week, my friends!

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